It's funny that advices can be so good yet so bad...

I was hearing out Lisa and the advices that were given to her by her peers... Some of them were very good advices and some of them so damn dramatic!

One of the advices that Lisa got from a guy who is married is that before you get married, you should be.. You have to be critical with the person that one is dating. I absolutely agree!

But one thing that I don't agree with is this advice that was bestowed upon her from females friends that are married.

"One must come with terms that one never changes. and she must come to ask herself whether she could live with it or not!"

For example, a man might have a terrible habit of rolling his socks to take it off and the wife might not like that... They might have discussions or even fights about it. The man might promise to do better... yet the socks is still rolled and the wife might have to come to grips that he will roll his socks for da rest of his life....

In things like this, I do agree that she might have to ask herself this drmatic question....

Sujin(my pastor's wife) was in absolute agreement with this theory of asking yourself whether you can live with it or not. She even went as far to say that you should immediately dump the person if you come to conclusion that you can't live with it.

Here is my trouble with Da statement. Such questioning never gives room for change and improvement...

One might not improve 100%, but one can give effort. Right? and that is commendable... No?

People can change. When I face confrontations, I ask what can I do to make this situation better. If I see something that I dislike in my girlfriend, I do NOT ask if I can live with it for rest of my life. I ask what can I do to understand where she comes from. And how can I help to improve. Cause we do not live in an absolute world. Other than da word of God and certain truths, rest is hazy...

I am willing to give efforts. Cause change occur in our lives whether we like it or not. So why not change to please the significant other?


Are you the same person that you were 10 years ago?

Grand Canyon

I was yappin away with Virginie and she was telling me about the trip she went on.... She just came back and one of the places that she mentioned was Grand Canyon.....

I had a 15 minute encounter with the canyon back when I spent 2 months in Colorado in college.
flashback
I was groggy from da drive and we weren't sure that we were gonna stop by to go to Dolores CO. But I said why not. So in my groggy state I stepped out of da car and BAM!

There it was. I woke right up. Lookin majestic and amazing. Words cannot describe how awesome that place is. I don't know what it was. It was as if time was standing still. It looked like a painting almost. I've seen many pictures of the Grand Canyon. But its not the same as seeing the real thing.

It's like the first time you see a Van Gogh's painting. On pictures it's nice... But when you see the real deal, it's 3 dimentional...

I think I am gonna go before the year is over. Anyone interested?

Andy Lee is my hero....

So this morning due to certain unforeseen circumstances, I needed a ride at 7:30 in da mornin'. So who came to rescue my monkey ass? Andy Lee! It was no complaining or anything. Andy came and gave me a ride. Thanks Pal! Oh and happy birthday! Andy is a quarter of a century old..... So this morning as a birthday gift, I gave him da privilege of giving me a ride while he was still half asleep.... How sad!

Seems to be many birthdays these days. David Lim's is around da corner. And I believe it was Alex's Birthday the otherday. No one is happy about it though. Birthday are no longer that special anymore.... Now they are just another reason to tell yourself to stay young. People say all kinds of nonsense like "You are only as old as how you feel!" Crap!

You are exactly as old as your birth certificate say you are!

Yeah.... Life....

How to grab Garter belts at weddings....

So Da Fevah has done did it again. Yup! There were a gang of clowns scream and yelling that they were gonna get Hanna's Garter Belt. Young'uns and old ones. Friends, family. His friends from New life were being loud yelling "right here!" pointing at themselves..... Being their clown selves. But me... I was quite and I was on my stealth mode. I just went to the right side as everyone was yelling "Box out!"

So Russell da LUV MUSCLE was about to throw it and as he let it go I carefully calculated where it was going and I jumped up.

I felt like MJ! And snatched the garter belt in the air! I clinched my fists with great tenacity! Hugged Russell and too a pic with da belt on my head!

Not only did I get it but it was no contest. This is my fourth one that I've caught! I caught'em at Following weddings. Sherry Kim, Kenny Bae, Marcel Seva, and Russell and Hanna's! hahahaha!

So here are some comments from some who've witnessed da event.

"Man.. You got up High!" Mike Ha

"I am so happy that you got it. You got up for that one!" Da Groom himself Mussell

"Man it is so natural for you to get those things.. How many is that now?" David Lim

"I was so embarrassed..." Da Fevette

"You are so shameless..." Hoon

I got fifty Big ONES as a prize so I took many peeps to Starbucks! It was a great wedding. During da slide show, Russell put a pic of me and him ten years ago... Man I am fat! Well I need to get back in that losing weight mode!

Congrats to Russell and Hanna! Mr. and Mrs. Kim! You guys are beautiful!