Yesterday after bible studay a whole discussion came up about mother-in-laws. Particularly Korean mother-in-laws. (Shi-Uh-Muh-Nee) Yeah I've heard all the horror stories in da past. But man... Ladies get so out of hand about it. yes our parents and we are from a different culture and different generation... But man!
They were making Korean Mothers in law in to Cruella DeVille! Of course Lisa is all afraid to meet my mother. I am sure knowing Korean moms, that many, many women have suffered being in marriages/relationships because of moms. Sujin shared about her experience and how stressful she was about it.
All I kept hearing is that it is different and how we men don't understand about Korean Mother in laws and this, that, and the other. And yes, some of us men don't understand. But c'mon. Its not 19th century in Korea now. I am sure there are plenty of progressive Korean-American mother in laws.... They were sharing about other horror stories and other situations and what not. I was getting some what annoyed at the fact that there was no comfort or the good things that were talked about. It was all just sufferings that Korean wives go through... Geeze. The straw that broke the camels back was when Lisa talked about how great the Chinese mother in laws are! I said "OK! I've heard enough." I got up. I said "I've heard enough about my mother without you ever meeting her".
I can't say that everything will be roses, but I am pretty confident that my mother will not drive anyone insane. She is pretty modern and if anything she will probabaly treat my future wife better than me. Cause they already had a son before me. They were hoping for a daughter. But they got me and my brother passed away. So my parents have always longed for a daughter. Thank God I wasn't a girl. Can you imagine if I was a girl? Yikes. But I can see it from the girl's perspectives. Thank the Lord that I am a guy and I don't have to deal with psycho shi-uh-muh-nees! hahahaha!
Every action has a reaction! So be good to them and they will be good to you.